This afternoon, some friends and I were talking about how we were constantly playing catch up. That no matter how much work we do, it’s never enough. We’re like the hedgehog Tattoo had a kid. The creature used to run on its wheel all night long without ever gaining any ground. That’s what we’re doing. We’re going non-stop – writing, marketing, working day jobs – and at the end of the day, we’re in the same place we were when we began. And frankly, we’re exhausted. We’re tired of playing catch up; we want to make some forward motion.
And so we decided to double down on our efforts to create joy in our lives.
I’ve blogged about building a better mental ecosystem before. At the end of 2017, I announced that I was going to go fallow in order to grow a newer, better Barb. Unfortunately my fallow period lasted a little longer than I intended. But, I’m ready to sprout. 2019 is going to be my year of fresh growth.
For real this time. I mean it. Pinky swear and everything.
I see myself starting with four steps:
- Prune things that don’t give me a positive return. (I was going to say joy, but in the case of the day job, it’s not so much joy as a weekly paycheck.) There are things in my life that I’ve been clinging to either out of loyalty or fear of missing out that, when I think about it, no longer fit in my life. Certain social media accounts for example and certain professional organizations. Come 2019, they are out of here.
- Practice daily self-care. That could mean spending ten minutes working on a book of my heart or having a cup of fresh brewed coffee. Or pruning something unnecessary out of my life. Good self care is about doing what’s right for you.
- Stand in my truth. In other words, I’m renewing my goal to be myself and be comfortable with who I am, flaws and all. Trust me, that’s not an easy thing to do – especially if you were raised in my family.
- Improve my self-talk. The things I say in my head I would never say to my bestie. In fact, most times I would say the opposite. I am going to start treating myself like my best friend. After all, if you don’t love yourself, how can you love others?
If I can accomplish these things even 50% of the time, I will be moving forward. So who’s with me? What do you need to do in order to grow in 2019?