Happy 2018 and welcome to a Tuesday edition of Monday Musings. Clearly, I’m starting the year off on schedule. But then, being a day behind is pretty much my modus operandi. In
fact, maybe I should make it my tagline – Barb Wallace – A Day Late.
It has potential.
I mentioned last week that I had some New Year resolutions. They aren’t so much resolutions as a continuation of my new mindset. 2018 is going to be my year of Acceptance and Attitude.
Resolution #1: Accept that not everyone is going to agree with me, and be strong enough to walk my own path.
It infuriates me when I log onto social media to read comments that imply there’s only one right answer or one right ideology. The longer I’m on this planet, the more I realize that there is no single right answer to anything. Everything and anything can be right and everything and anything can be wrong. Shades of gray are allowed. In fact, shades of gray should be encouraged. What matters is picking the answer that is best for you. Your best friends (waves hello to them) may have a completely different way of approaching life, politics, work, etc and you know what? It’s okay. The same way that it’s okay for me to have my own way of approaching life, politics, etc.
Therefore, I’m resolving to embrace my approach and not feel like I have to jump on a bandwagon or twist my beliefs simply because everyone else has.
Which brings me to….
Resolution #2: Do my best, focus on living the best life possible, and accept that I am but one small piece of a very large, very complex universe.
Something else I’ve come to realize these past few months: nothing in life is guaranteed. Or to put it a different way, I have a lot less control over events than I like to believe. For example, I can work my butt off promoting a new book, but that doesn’t mean it’ll hit a bestseller’s list. Or even sell a few hundred copies.
If a project fails or I don’t get the results I want, it doesn’t mean that I have failed. It means the universe shook out in a different order. I am resolving to stop kicking myself when life doesn’t bring me what I want.
I have other resolutions as well: Spend less time online and more time making personal connections. Life a life of authenticity. Make sure my glass is always half-full rather than half-empty. Practice gratitude. Choose my outrages wisely.
You see the pattern, don’t you?
Because there is one thing I can control in this world, and that’s my attitude as I go through the next twelve months. 2018 can be a positive experience or a negative one. It all depends on what mindset I choose to have.
Acceptance and Attitude. Those are my words for 2018. What are yours?